“When a person really desires something, all the universe conspires to help that person to realise his dream.” The Alchemist
We stayed in one of those all-inclusive resorts on the coast of Mexico. Playa Del Carmen, Mexico was a beautiful place. Now haters will say but Ish, did you even leave the resort to explore Playa Del Carmen? My answer will be this, no. I could barely explore all the resort had to offer. Here I go again, digressing from what I want to talk about. If you know anything about me at this point, you probably think I did not plan this trip...Wrong, I did. Why else would I have chosen an all-inclusive resort?
We live in an age where we don’t have to be afraid of being ourselves and chasing our dreams. Nowhere is this more evident than on social media where people get to freely express themselves. I have encouraged my family and friends to take advantage of this and chase their dreams, but I have not taken my own advice.
Allow me to reintroduce myself. Hello, world, ladies and gentlemen, this is another blog post from yours truly, Mr Ganda, blogger, father, hubby, and host of the awesome podcast; Apparently With Mr Ganda. At this point, haters might be claiming that they don't know me or that they've never heard of me.
Why would I be talking about mental health today? Well, the answer is simple; its Mental Health Month and for once, here is a topic that my kind and by that I mean black men, African men, are afraid to address. Growing up in Africa, Sierra Leone to be precise mental illness is for the most part considered non-existent.
I have always been fascinated with this topic. How do people define happiness? For a long time, I was not even sure how I described happiness. So let's get right into it. Before I started the recording, I googled the definition of happiness and what I got was this "the state of being happy." I know what you are thinking, well that was no help and I agree. So here is what I got for the word happy; "feeling or showing contentment or pleasure." Look, I am no vocabulary expert, and I am not about to become one. Now that we have the basic definition of happiness and what it means to be happy, I can continue to bore you with my monologue. If you are like me (please don't be), you must already be stalking (I mean following) people on social media who just look happy. Their happiness makes you want to question your sense of joy. I swear some of these people look like they attended a school that teaches them how to smile and exude happiness. My question is, ARE THEY TRULY HAPPY. If someone tells you that they are happy, is that true?
It is usually assumed that African men do not celebrate our African Queens. I am not denying the fact that we should be praising them more often than we do. There is also this notion that African men are not romantic because we sometimes fail to do or say the things that our foreign counterparts might do or say to our African Queens. However, this is not the same review we get from foreign women. Anyway, that topic is for another day. My goal today is to celebrate the African Queen I know and remind her why she is and always will be a Queen.
I was born a man, but even I cannot tell you definitively what it means to be a man. Scratch that, I cannot give you an answer that will satisfy everyone. Anyway, who cares about satisfying everyone? No, honestly who does? That was not a rhetorical question. If you are concerned about satisfying everyone, please let me know how that's going for you so far. As you listen to this episode, you will notice that I have created segments for the show and also that my voice continues to sound like I'm half asleep.